Change Your Price Tag

When it comes to every kind of relationship, they say that, “everyone has a price."   What price you ask? The value that you think you are worth. Now value is instilled in us from the moment that we have some cognitive ability. How our parent (s) treat us. How our friends treat us. How our significant other treats us. You get the picture. But I would like to suggest to you today that we give too much power to others for the price tag on us. Why do they get to decide our value?

The relationships around us sometimes leaves us feeling kicked, empty, and wondering if it’s all worth it—or if we are worth it. But God leaves no doubt of the tremendous value He places on every human life, including yours.  God says that we were knit together on purpose, intricately and intentionally in Psalm 139. We are definitely worth more than birds according to Matthew 10:31 and we are valuable and honored so says Isaiah 43:4. I mean, if we were the only one in this world, Christ still would have died for us (Rom 5:8). So why on earth are we letting other people decide our value, if our Creator says we are all that and more!

But how exactly can you take the price ringer back and change your price tag? I think you can start by doing these three things:

1. Learn what your creator thinks of you. If God says, you were valuable enough to send his son to die for you. You're valuable. Isaiah 13:12 says God would make man more precious than gold. There you go! More precious than gold! Reset your mindset to think of what God says about you.
2. Recognize the price check folks in your life. Ever go to a store and at the counter you ask for a price check from the cashier? Either because you think the price on the item is too high, too low or doesn't have one at all? Well, there are people in your life that you unconsciously ask for a price check from all the time. Some of them tell you, "you slay" and others tell you "you suck" and there are even others in your life who don't seem to want to share any positive self-worth building feedback with you. Recognize who they are and then promote or demote as necessary. I am of the conviction that no matter who they are even family, if they are toxic, if they are not in my corner, if they have passive aggressive tendencies i.e. one day they love you the next day they are MIA, I have to for my own sake, move them from the front row to the balcony.
3. Keep building your tribe and find the vibe. When you do the first two, you will be in a place where you are getting more comfortable with your worth and value and who you know you should have around you. It's been said, "go where you are celebrated not tolerated." Well, what are you doing to find those places and people who will celebrate the person you are and are becoming? What places have the vibe that you need in this season of your life? What people do you feel attracted to because of the message they send to the world? Are they near you? Ask for a coffee date. Are they too far? Follow them on social media and if they are doing an event, go. Are there folks that are part of a group or association that connects with you, take your butt to an event. Stop staying home. Stop listing the 100 obstacles of why you can't go.

You will never change your life, if you don't change your mind. You will never change your price tag, if you don't take action once your mind is set in the right way. Yes, everyone does have a price tag that they invisibly display to the world.  Let the price on your tag say "PRICELESS” “INVALUABLE” “IRREPLACEABLE”.  Then, only let the ones who acknowledge the price tag and treat you as its valid, in your life. You don't need anyone who treats you like you are on the clearance rank.